Is it a case of Jekyll and Hyde?
From the recent Miami Herald Article, Exchange between Mayor and Manager
Mayor Bateman also had stern words for the city manager, accusing him of staying in his office and not realizing how overworked the mayor and council’s assistants are. City Manager George Gretsas had to ask the mayor multiple times for permission to speak, with the mayor at one point saying flat-out: “No; You’re not recognized.”
“You’ve never even taken one step into that office to see what’s going on,” Bateman told Gretsas, referring to the office of the mayor and council.
“That’s not true,” Gretsas replied.
“You do not get involved. And they all say the same thing.* You don’t come out of that room,” Bateman continued.
When he finally got a chance to pipe up, after Bateman systematically asked council members whether they were done speaking, Gretsas said the decision to hire more help is, “a policy decision, and it’s yours to make.”
“To look at me and be angry that somehow, this is my fault, I take issue with that,” Gretsas said.
The manager said he would implement whatever decision the council makes. The council decided 5-2 that they should hire more help.
Then it has been noticed that five minutes later he'll smile and speak to City Manager George Gretsas respectfully and professionally.
*Example of Mayor Bateman's management style. The Mayor has forgotten Homestead has a Human Resources Department. He is also giving cause to the creation of a hostile work environment lawsuit in the public.
A hostile work environment exists when an employee experiences workplace harassment and fears going to work because of the offensive, intimidating, or oppressive atmosphere generated by the harasser.
Verbal abuse
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
For other uses, see Verbal abuse (disambiguation).
Verbal abuse (also known as reviling) is described as a negative defining statement told to the person or about the person or by withholding any response thus defining the target as non-existent. If the abuser doesn't immediately apologize and indulge in a defining statement, the relationship may be a verbally abusive one.[1]In schools a young person may indulge in verbal abuse — bullying (which often has a physical component) to gain status as superior to the person targeted and to bond with others against the target. Generally the bully knows no other way to connect emotionally, i.e., be bonded with others.[2]
In couple relationships the verbal abuser responds to the partner's "separateness," i.e., independent thoughts, views, desires, feelings, expressions (even of happiness) as an irritant or even an attack.[3] While some people believe the abuser has low self-esteem and so attempts to place their victim in a similar position, i.e., to believe negative things about himself or herself this is not usually the case in couple relationships. A man may, for example, disparage a woman partner simply because she has qualities that were disparaged in him, i.e., emotional intelligence, warmth, receptivity and so forth.[citation needed]
A person of any gender, race, culture, sexual orientation, age, or size may experience verbal abuse. Typically, in couple or family relationships verbal abuse increases in intensity and frequency over time.[4] After exposure to verbal abuse, victims may fall into clinical depression and/or post-traumatic stress disorder. The person targeted by verbal abuse over time may succumb to any stress related illness. Verbal abuse creates emotional pain and mental anguish in its target.
Despite being the most common form of abuse, verbal abuse is generally not taken as seriously as other types, because there is no visible proof and the abuser may have a "perfect" persona around others. In reality, however, verbal abuse can be more detrimental to a person's health than physical abuse. If a person is verbally abused from childhood on, he or she may develop psychological disorders that plague them into and through adulthood.
Verbal abuse includes the following:[5]
- countering
- withholding
- discounting
- abuse disguised as a joke
- blocking and diverting
- accusing and blaming
- judging and criticizing
- trivializing
- undermining
- threatening
- name calling
- chronic forgetting
- ordering
- denial of anger or abuse
- abusive anger
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